Writing a eulogy is all about the life story and celebration of the deceased person. You can do this by many different ways, but generally his will include * early life, work to current times*, life achievements and how they touched lives of others. As a celebrant, you have a couple of ways in which your eulogy can be read out, you can read this or have a family member or partner/friend to stand with you, or I can read this for you. By, writing and delivering the eulogy it is a big part of the deceased love ones memories, achievements, joy, love and also bring in some of those fun times, this will make everyone reflect on those times in their life with the deceased.
One of the hardest things is how do I start, where do I start....I always suggest to look through some old photos, and when you start placing pen to paper, you'd be amazed how things start to flow.
Use these pointers to help you start:- * Full name / Nicknames * Birthdate * Place of birth * Parents and Siblings * Childhood memories * Education level / Scholarship * Jobs * Relationships / Marriage * Children / Grandchildren * Places lived * Achievements * Hobbies / Interests * Likes and dislikes * What did you love or admire about the deceased person? * What will you miss about them the most? * What did they do that made you smile?
Stories: - Stories of what or whom made them the person they were. Don't forget to ask other family members or friends to help you with this, they would love to contribute to this. Tips:- Write this out as you'd read it, then read it out aloud, how you would read it, remember you going to be speaking in front of your family and friends and your all there to celebrate your loved one's life, memories and the joy they gave you and everyone else. Sometimes having some humor helps you and everyone else to feel relaxed, try to recall that some people may remember your loved one as a joker or a time and a place type of person, so by placing something in your eulogy means that you have thought not only of your memories, but memories of everyone else who miss them too.
Did they have a special saying? Did they do things in order (eg; regiment)? Did they always wear a special color all the time? Did they have a favourite song, or pop group or singer, a favourite poem, a favourite movie, or a favourite place.
Reading the Eulogy:- Public speaking isn't for everyone, but I always tell my clients; remember your doing this for your loved one in front of family and friends, and remember they are taking in your / their memories and yes there maybe tears, laughter, or cheer; as this will bring those memories to the front of their minds to share in the after service refreshments area. And all those whom are there have come because they loved them, and they want to show you and the family love and support. Final Tip:- Take your time and practice reading out loud. (It really does help hearing what you have written) Ask someone who can support you whilst your reading the eulogy/they may need to take over (If you feel you cannot read your eulogy, I'm more than happy to read this for you) Relax and read as though your reading to your deceased loved one Do your best to speak as clear as you can Your never going to be judged, your mourning and so is everyone else. Relax, Breath, and have something to eat before hand, Breath. A.F.
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